Build Trust In A Relationship? Here Are 7 Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

I would like to share with you seven practical ways of to build trust in a relationship. We have a lot of pre-conceived ideas of how to make a relationship work, but they may not be necessarily right. For example, we always hear, do exciting things to keep the relationship interesting.

This may not be totally true. The stability brought about by being predictable would have a better effect on a relationship. The preceding seven tips are sure-fire ways to improve trust level within a relationship.

As previously mentioned, generally knowing what is going to happen at a specific time is good for relationships. People are creatures of habit and feel safe and stable within their comfort zones. We are not talking about being adventurous in trying out new places or food which is fine, but about the stability in our day to day activities and expectations. It is constancy that develops trust in a relationship, in the same manner that we trust that the sun will shine in the morning and set in the evening.

Then, you should say what you mean. Action speaks louder than words and while you say you are happy, your partner will know for sure if you are not through your facial expressions or your action. How can you expect your partner to learn to trust you if he/she always perceive you as not saying the truth? So say what you mean so your partner could start to develop more trust in you.

Thirdly, you should basically believe in your partner's capability. Without this, trust will never be developed. Truth can be imparted kindly and gently to be appreciated. If you of all people who is supposed to know your partner more than anybody think that he/she is not capable of anything, and make it so apparent, how then can you expect your partner to confide in you?

Never hold back information from your partner. This is one of the primary reasons why couples do not develop trust in each other. You should always be transparent, but to be able to do this well means not involving yourself in unscrupulous endeavors. Guilt over secrets can eat you up as too much time and effort go into keeping it. You will end up fabricating one lie to cover it, then another lie to cover the other lie, and so on. Sooner or later all these lies will catch up with you and there goes the trust you have been trying to build.

Our fifth tip is, be honest with your partner about your wants. Guessing wastes time and more often than not produces the wrong result. Be forthcoming about the things that make you tick, though care should be exercised because too much enthusiasm about your needs might cause you to forget your partner's.

The sixth tip is know when to say no. As your partner lists down his/her needs, you should be able to determine if the needs are doable on your part because you cannot say yes to everything which you will not be able to provide later. So say no to the things that you deem unreasonable and you will not be able grant. Additionally, saying yes to your partner's every whim will not earn you respect and might eventually lead to another problem.

Lastly, do not stop growing. A relationship is not so unlike a diamond which is formed under great heat and pressure beneath the Earth's crust. When mined in its raw form, it may seem unappealing at first, but after undergoing much process, polishing and cutting, it becomes a prized gem that is almost indestructible. Your relationship could undergo the same painful adjustments and refinements but once you survive it, will end up becoming a precious and solid relationship.

When you start to build trust in a relationship, expect some rough sailing. As you go through the process, however, both of you will become better individuals more stable and capable of weathering most of the trials that will come your way.

posted by : kenneth-dean

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